Let’s don’t and then say we did – (line from an old Shalamar tune by the way)
How many of you out there are guilty of this?
I know, it’s not always easy to keep track of everything. Especially little things, or things that just don’t seem that important in the big picture.
Like when you bump into that old friend, and you tell them “I’m gonna give you a call” and then you don’t call them.
Or when you set up a time to get together and you don’t show up and you don’t call.
It’s easy to blow stuff off. And we’re all probably guilty of it from time to time. Our circles don’t always intersect and the rhythms of our lives can be very different.
But if you’ve developed a pattern of saying one thing and doing another it can bring lasting damage to relationships.
Now, maybe it doesn’t matter that much to you that you don’t hear from that old friend. Maybe they’ve fallen out of your circle and you really don’t have the time or inclination to reach out.
But could it be that this is saying more about you than them? That maybe you’re too willing to allow relationships to wither on the vine. And that your pride tells you that they should be reaching out to you and not the other way around.
If that’s the case then you have a decision to make. Do you listen to your pride or do you decide that it’s more important to rekindle that old friendship.
I’m not saying there’s a right or wrong answer here. But for those of you who may have been fans of the movie Tombstone with Kurt Russell and Val Kilmer, it makes me think of the scene where they were ambushed by the creek. And afterwards as the Doc Holiday character is showing symptoms of his illness, one of his comrades asks him why is he out here.
Doc’s response was “Wyatt Earp’s my friend”. The other guy responds, “Hell, Doc, I’ve got lots of friends!” to which Doc Holiday says…”I don’t.”